Tips for Succeeding as a Full-Time Freelancer

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The start of my career as a full-time writer, ghostwriter and content creator was unintentional. I was 21 years old when I found myself simultaneously graduating from college and being my grandmother’s primary caretaker.

At the time, I felt like I had the rug pulled out from under me. Up until that point, I’d lived most of my adult life as if both roles were meant to be my future. I saw myself taking my resume and pivoting to a full-time role as a magazine editor, all the while still working to keep my grandma alive and healthy as she continued to grow older. 

A life as a freelancer was never in the plans. Yet, on the heels of a new chapter, it was the only part of my life that made sense. Taking on self-employment full time gave me the opportunity to grieve my grandmother’s loss at my own pace. The flexible schedule made tending to my mental health a possibility. The excitement of being responsible for bringing on new clients and working on projects I loved helped remind me that I had a say on where and how my life unfolded. 

A life as a freelancer was never in the plans.

Now, almost eight years since that first client, it’s easier to know what makes my life as a full-time writer and content creator fulfilling, less stressful and more manageable. Here are a few tips I have found to be helpful for finding success as a full-time freelancer:

Create your “A team.” 

I’ll start with the lesson that I’ve had to learn time and time again: schedule intentional time to workshop or to simply chat with people who are on similar paths. You will never regret having a mastermind group of people who just “get it.”

These people will understand the ins and outs of trying to grow and scale your career. They get the nuances of figuring out contracts or negotiating rates. They get it. They support you, and they help you become better at your craft.

They get it. They support you, and they help you become better at your craft.

Whether you come from a traditional work environment where you were surrounded by coworkers or you have been a solo-preneur since day one, the freelance path can get lonely. Having a built-in support system helps keep you on track. 

Play to your strengths.

The best part about being a full-time freelancer is that you get to cater your work to play to your strengths. This also happens to be one of the hardest parts about being a freelancer. Oftentimes, we’re our own worst enemies and playing to our strengths turns into a hard task because we don’t believe we have any strengths to begin with.

Take some time at the beginning of every quarter (or month, especially at the beginning of your freelance career) to list on paper all your strengths, what you do well and when you work best. This will set you up for success. It will also give you a tangible reminder whenever you’re feeling down because of work. 

The best part about being a full-time freelancer is that you get to cater your work to play to your strengths. 

Build routines and skills.

A big mistake I made early on in my career was to focus solely on building routines. I am constantly working on my morning routine or on setting boundaries at home so that my work time is protected. While those routines have been beneficial and I recommend anyone who is self-employed to dedicate time to building them, it’s also important to pour into your skillset.

A gap is born the minute you go freelance because unlike those who work under a manager and are learning from higher ups, you are now (mostly) working solo. In order to fill that gap, build your skills by attending seminars, listening in on panels or participating in courses. 

Define success for yourself.

When you’re freelance, you choose whether you’ll inherit society’s definition of success or whether you’ll pave your own. Success used to mean solely climbing the corporate ladder. Now, however, it can mean whatever you want it to mean. Lately success for me as a self-employed individual has meant scaling my business so that I don’t have to exchange time for money in a 1:1 transactional way. I set goals based on what makes sense, both for my career and my life. 

Whether you call yourself a freelancer, self-employed, a solo-preneur or a small business owner, we’re all on the same path to pursuing a career that’s meant to wrap around our lives. It’s a good journey to be on!

What tricks or hacks have helped streamline your day-to-day as a freelancer? What advice would you give to someone who is new to self-employment?

Image via Tony Li, Darling Issue No. 17

Why We Should Celebrate Other People and Life’s Small Moments

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Standing ovations always make me cry.

Without subtlety or reservation, my heart melts at the sight and sound of a crowd rising to their feet as they roar with cheer, shouting as loud as their voices will carry. As the echoes of applause fill the room, no matter the musical, movie or ceremony, a familiar lump forms in my throat. 

I’d love to tell you that my salty tears trickle delicately down my cheek as I lightly pat my eyes with tissue (the kind of classy and composed weep you see actresses do so beautifully on-screen) Yet, if I did, I wouldn’t be painting a true picture of the seriously soppy scene. In a not-so-graceful fashion, my tears spill down my face like milk. My cheeks turn rosy red with emotion, and my voice runs dry from cheering with such vigor.

The crowd isn’t standing for me. In fact, my presence is lost and mostly unknown in the noise of the room. However, all the more, those brief moments of unified joy move a world within me. 

Those brief moments of unified joy move a world within me. 

Perhaps I’m a little too soft. But stay with me while I tell you more.

In the movie “The Holiday,” there’s a scene toward the end of the film where screenwriter Arthur Abbott (who, of course, introduces us to “gumption”—the iconic meet-cute and the “you’re the leading lady of your own life” concept) receives a lifetime achievement award for his contribution to the film industry. 

As elderly and ever-charming Arthur arrives at the ceremony—smartly dressed in his suit—the music plays, and the auditorium doors swing open. Much to his surprise and humble dismay, there’s a sea of people waiting to greet him—clapping, whistling and celebrating. He takes a step forward and walks through the crowd, shaking the hands of his comrades and friends. 

Upon reaching the end of the aisle, he approaches a small set of stairs, which he has to climb in order to reach the stage. All eyes are on him. 

Though offered a helping hand to assist him, Arthur decides to take a leap of faith. Fueled by the praise of his friends and unfazed by his old age, he says, “I’ll do it,” before bounding up the stairs with determination, gumption and a lively spring in his step. 

The camera remains focused on Arthur before panning around the room to show the crowd as they continue their heartfelt applause. Despite his many achievements and accolades, Arthur didn’t believe his life’s work was worth much. Those who loved him, however, fervently showed up to celebrate him—commemorating his triumphs and wins, even when he wasn’t sure if they were due any honor at all.

Those who loved him, however, fervently showed up to celebrate him—commemorating his triumphs and wins, even when he wasn’t sure if they were due any honor at all.

While life isn’t a movie and standing ovations won’t usually play a part in our everyday schedules, there is deep joy to be found in celebrating the brilliance and beauty of those around us. In big and small moments alike, supporting our friends will never grow old.

Like Arthur leaping up the steps to the ceremony stage, encouragement and acclamation can go a long way. With a gentle nudge, a word of kindness, a “you can do this” and a warm smile of support, we can empower those around us to go the extra mile—to reach higher, stretch further, imagine greater and finish stronger. 

Our love and belief in them, consistent and honest, can help shine a spotlight on the goodness and gold they haven’t yet seen in themselves.

There is deep joy to be found in celebrating the brilliance and beauty of those around us.

As human beings, we have been designed to walk through life together. It’s important to remember that the strengths and successes of our friends, family and even strangers do not negate or diminish our own. Our victories still belong to us. But how much sweeter would they be if we shared them with the people near and dear to us?

The pure and sincere celebration of others is a privilege we get to enjoy when we live in community. In fact, sharing in their happiness is one of the richest rewards of a life lived well.

The same light that shines on them as they win the award, overcome the struggle, run the race, achieve the grade, get the job or fulfill the dream, shines on us too. Let us remember this as we stand to our feet in the auditorium, join the chorus and cheer from the very top of our lungs for the ones we love.

How well do you celebrate the victories, big and small, of the people in your world? Why is it important to share in the victories of others?

Image via Koty, Darling Issue No. 24

LeAnn Rimes Leads With Vulnerability in Second Season of ‘Wholly Human’ Podcast

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“Real Women, Real Work” is a Darling series about everyday women who work in various fields including business, entertainment, science and education. We want to get to know the WHY behind their WHAT and get an inside look into different industries.

LeAnn Rimes is known for her success as a Grammy-award winning singer, songwriter and actress, but with the launch of the second season of her mental wellness and wholeness podcast, “Wholly Human,” she is now also a leader in the mental health advocacy space.

Following up on the success of the first season of the iHeartRadio podcast, which reached #2 on iTunes Health & Fitness chart and in the Top 35 overall for podcasts worldwide, LeAnn continues to explore the wellness space in the second season of the acclaimed podcast. Ranging from topics such as anxiety, neuroscience, spirituality and the chatter in the mind, LeAnn leads listeners in honest conversations with experts to provide practical tools for their own wellness journeys.

More than ever, LeAnn is dedicated to using her voice and her celebrity to uplift others by removing the shame surrounding mental health. As she celebrates her 25th anniversary as a recording artist, LeAnn will continue her country-wide tour, and in early fall, will release her next studio album, “God’s Work.”

Darling got to sit down with LeAnn to discuss the second season of her podcast, which debuts today, as well as the journey that led to her upcoming album. 

LeAnn, you are a singer, actress, author and now podcast host. When you were a kid, what did you imagine you’d be when you grew up?

As a child, I wanted to perform. I loved to entertain. I loved to sing. I remember when I was little I either wanted to be a singer, psychiatrist or the first female professional softball player. The singing panned out way more than the other things. I remember when I was young telling my mom that I wanted people to know my name. Everybody would know my name no matter where they lived. So I think I’ve done fairly well. 

I’d also say the past year and a half has allowed me to diversify in a lot of ways. There are gifts through this pandemic. It’s allowed me to play in different areas where I didn’t know if I would have the time before. I have been on tour since I was 13.

At the beginning of 2020, I was talking to a friend, and I had all these ideas for a new record and a podcast. All of the sudden, I had plenty of time to create all these things. The pandemic really has allowed me to diversify and play in areas where I wanted to play but perhaps there was fear. This past year and a half has really been about expanding into other places and beautiful crevices of myself that I have not yet explored. It’s been really exciting.

This past year and a half has really been about expanding into other places and beautiful crevices of myself that I have not yet explored. 

You were catapulted into the spotlight at a really young age. At 13, you were a country music star. How did you deal with the pressure?

In one word, denial. Honestly. We just celebrated 25 years since my first single and album. I look back and I recognize how much denial I had to go through in order to continue to do the work that I was doing. It was always about forward movement and not stopping.

During this down time during COVID, I’ve been off the performance train for 16 months. It’s hard to get back on. It’s given me an opportunity to recognize how unhealthy some of my life was. My nervous system has been stunned since I was a child. In 2020, it was really uncomfortable to have so much down time because my nervous system was wound up. It has been eye opening to reflect after 25 years and to recognize the ways in which I had to suppress and deny in order to survive.

A woman wrapping her arms around herself as the wind blows in her hairAs a public figure, people might assume you don’t have struggles with finding your voice, fear or feelings of depression. What have been the biggest stereotypes or assumptions you’ve had to overcome?

I think there’s a big assumptionthat I am not human actually. We have spent many years as a society, not just with celebrities but with ourselves, shoving down our humanity and presenting a one-dimensional version of ourselves to everyone else. I think we are now finally stripping that back and we are being able to meet one another in our full humanity. 

People look at anyone in the spotlight and think they have everything. They ask: Why would they be upset? We always think that having things equals happiness or that it would get you out of some level of pain. On many levels, that is not true. 

Having so many opinions and projections, as a celebrity you really are projected on by thousands and millions of people. I joked the other day with a friend that the fact that I know who the hell I am outside of what people have projected on me is a miracle. I think we are breaking down a lot of stigmas right now.

I am happy to be on the forefront of that and tear down the stereotypes and shame around mental health. I’m honored to allow people to have their experiences fully and not hide parts of themselves.

I am happy to be on the forefront of that and tear down the stereotypes and shame around mental health.

One of your newest projects is your podcast, “Wholly Human with LeAnn Rimes.” Can you tell me a little bit about the backstory of why you started it?

My whole journey has been about collecting fragmentations of myself and bringing them back into wholeness. It’s a bit of a play on being incredibly human and the souls that we are. I wanted to create a place to connect with people on a human level. 

With me being a public figure, people forget that I am human. There have been so many projections upon my story by the media and people. This is another avenue to be even more open about it and share what I am going through and use my celebrity and my name. It’s been about sharing my journey of expanding into a fuller version of myself and taking people along that ride so that they have the opportunity to do the same. 

We are talking about things I never would have thought I would talk about in a million years. People are connecting with it, and that’s been so beautiful. Hearing the stories of how this has helped listeners deepen their own paths has made me really happy because that was my intention.

On the podcast, what are some common roadblocks you’ve found that hinder our wholeness?

One of our biggest roadblocks is our own voice in our heads. The bully that we think is true and isn’t 99 percent of the time.

It’s so common to see all the different ways in which we have survived, all of our survival mechanisms from an early age. We fed off the world around us. From the time we are born until we are 6 or 7 years old, we basically are carbon copies of our environment. It really is about retraining ourselves and our thoughts. Our programming all plays into who we think we are. It’s about unwinding who we think we are and discovering who we really are.

It really is about retraining ourselves and our thoughts…. It’s about unwinding who we think we are and discovering who we really are.

A woman with a sheer top and her hands playing in her hairThe second season of the podcast is releasing today! What can listeners look forward to?

I am definitely more comfortable with the podcast experience and hosting. We deal with everything from anxiety to the chatter of the mind to the space of the heart and love. Every podcast guest this season is so different from experts on neuroscience to spirituality. We really have dug in further this season and bring people some really great information. 

Everyone’s healing journey is so different. The hope is that the podcast is just a guide. We give them some helpful and tangible things to play with. We are all scientists, and we are also science experiments. So we have to play and see what works for us.

You have a new album releasing this fall called “God’s Work.” What inspired this album?

It is really incredible and inspired from a very spiritual place. I look at it as an extension of the chant record I released in 2020 in a lot of ways but in full musical form. 

I speak truth on this record that scares me. It scared me to write. It scared me to perform, and that’s exciting because I know I’m pushing a boundary for myself and probably a lot of people too. I don’t hold back. I am so proud of this album. 

I know I’m pushing a boundary for myself and probably a lot of people too.

I hope that it helps support people in their awakening. I am creating music to support the awakening and the moment of time that we are in. It’s been a really exciting album to make. 

How would you describe the sound? How is it unique from previous albums?

I like to call it “World-acana” because it has an Americana vibe, but it has a lot of world groups. I love rhythm. There’s something about rhythm that moves me. Drums move me. So we started off playing with rhythms and kind of built it out from there. 

I feel like every album of mine is so different. I have always been one to play. I love music and creating it. There’s a real message that I’m sending with this album. I think that it’s a call to action for a lot of people, a wake up call. It’s been a world expression that I feel called to include.

If you had to pick, what would be your favorite song on the album? What about a close second?

Now that’s like choosing your favorite child. There’s a song called “The Wild” that probably is my favorite song on the record so far. It’s my favorite expression of something new of mine.  It scared the shit out of me when I wrote it. What came out was so true, honest and raw.

There were five incarnations of this song. Even when I went in to cut a scratch vocal, I felt like it wasn’t right. So I sent everyone out of the room, and I ended up finding this really cool hook to the song. I felt like I really let out the wild in me. Then, I knew that the song was complete, but it felt like serious birth pains. I felt like I was birthing a truth for myself and so many women when I recorded the song. I am really proud of that song and how I trusted the process.  

What advice would you give the young woman struggling to find her voice or perhaps who feels stuck?

Trusting the process is so important. Know that where you are is not where you will end up. It’s not the end. It’s just a momentary stop on your journey. 

The more we resist the thing that is showing up for us in the moment, the longer it persists. When we let things in, we become free because we give ourselves and that moment of our lives space to fully express themselves.

The feelings of being stuck are only momentary. Trust your heart and listen to what you feel. I don’t think there’s a wrong answer. We are here to learn. It’s all about the journey.

Know that where you are is not where you will end up. It’s not the end. It’s just a momentary stop on your journey. 

Knowing what you know now, what words of wisdom would you give to your younger self?

Keep a sense of self. I don’t even know if I had a sense of self back then. I think I did have one but then opinions, projections and that programming gets put on us from the outside world. Trust yourself. I don’t think anyone knows better than you.

To keep up to date with LeAnn, follow her on Instagram and listen to the second season of her podcast “Wholly Human.” To find out more, visit her website.

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9 Period Sex Positions That You Should Try Next






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Being on your period isn’t a death sentence to your sex life. Seriously. In fact, there are several period sex positions that can make you feel a little more comfortable (yep, sex can help with cramps!)

It’s a scientific fact that we get a little horny on our periods, especially when we feel like it’s the one time we can’t have sex. But that’s a lie the patriarchy fed us, and period sex is just like having sex any other time. 

While you can do any sex position on your period, these are the ones you should try next:

 

1. Standing up in the shower





Shower sex is a no-brainer when you’re on your period because, well, duh. Try a standing up position in which you face each other (likely propping up your leg against the edge of the tub or the shower) to make figuring it out (and not slipping) a bit easier. Whether you’re being digitally stimulated or having penetrative sex with someone with a penis, this is likely the easiest on this list.

 

2. Lying on your side





Any position in which you’re laying down will make having sex on your period extra enjoyable (or any time—no shame in being a pillow princess). This position involves you laying on your side and your partner entering you while they’re propped up on a pillow. 

 

3. Missionary with butterfly legs





You can never go wrong with missionary; there’s a reason it’s the most common sex position out there. But to make it even more comfortable during your period, try it with your legs in a butterfly yoga pose. It’ll open up your hips a little bit and feel oh, so good. This is also a great position for your partner to be on top of you using a vibrator or any other toy you love.

 

4. Doggy style





There are so many variations of doggy style to try. From laying down on your stomach with your butt up to putting a pillow under your knees to lift you up a bit, this position is a favorite amongst many for a reason. But while on your period, if you so choose, this is also a good time to try anal sex if you haven’t yet.

 

5. Missionary with legs straight up





Another variation of classic missionary, this one puts you in the standard “legs up the wall” yoga pose except your partner is the wall. Keep your legs together and place them on their chest or have them hold them up for you. This allows your partner to get very deep while still being able to access your clitoris for all that extra stimulation you’re craving.

 

6. The Lotus





If you’re wanting a position to feel really close to your partner, try this. Have your partner sit on a couch or on the bed with their legs out in front of them. You’ll straddle them from the top, wrapping your legs around their waist. Because you’re facing each other, it’s easy to look into each other’s eyes and really connect. This is also a great position if you just want to grind on your partner, especially if your partner also has a vagina. 

 

7. Mutual Masturbation





If you’re not quite feeling it but still ~feeling it~, masturbating with your partner while you’re side-by-side or facing each other might be the way to go. Side-by-side means you can touch each other if you feel like it, and facing each other provides quite the view. You can’t go wrong either way.

 

8. Spooning





What better position on your period than one where you lay down and don’t do any work? To make this position a little more fun, lift your leg closest to the ceiling up so your legs are in a “T” position. Your partner will have a little more room to enter you at that angle and a nice view! 

 

9. Cowgirl





With your hormones making you a little hornier than usual, you might want to do the exact opposite of all of these and absolutely strut your stuff, and when that’s the case, opt for cowgirl. This position allows you to stay in control, and it’s really easy for your partner to use their fingers or a vibrator on your clit at the same time. 

 

 

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The Best Shoes at the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale

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If there’s one thing I love to shop for more than anything else, it’s shoes. Sneakers, boots, sandals—you name it, I want it. There’s just something about having an amazing shoe collection (I don’t know, maybe it’s the Carrie Bradshaw in me) that feels amazing. We all know that shoes can make or break your look, so why not have a large selection to choose from?

When it comes to the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale, I always start by browsing the shoes. The deals are insane, and you know that you’ll get a ton of wear out of the shoes that are on sale. It’s also the perfect opportunity to look ahead at fall and winter and see what’s going to be trending. This year, for example, the NSale is full of chunky, lug-style boots that really go with everything.

Although I would say that boots are the way to go when buying in the sale, there are amazing deals on sneakers, mules, sandals, and even slippers. Here are our favorite Nordstrom Sale shoes that you’ll wear for years to come:

 





Adidas

Swift Run X Sneaker

Our entire team is obsessed with Adidas Swift Runs, and there’s no better time to pick up a pair than during the Nordstrom sale. Under $60? We’ll take one of each color!

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Nike

Internationalist Sneaker

Retro-style sneakers have slowly been making their way back into mainstream fashion, and this fun color combo makes for the perfect summer sneaker.

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Vionic

Shayla Sneaker

These sneakers are the perfect in-between for when you need something super comfortable but still want to look cute.

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Sorel

Kinetic Renegade Mesh Sneaker

There’s just something about a pair of pink sneakers that we can’t resist, and this peachy-pink toned pair from Sorel is no exception.

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Nike

Air Zoom Pegasus 38 Running Shoe

These sneakers are great for running and working out, but the all-white look also makes a super chic statement.

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Nike

React Escape Run Running Shoe

The leopard print accents on these white sneakers are eye-catching in all the right ways. Plus, they look like the most comfortable sneakers ever.

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Caslon

Andes Sneaker

These under-$50 sneakers come in four super cute colors and are perfect for the transition from summer to fall.

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Sam Edelman

Poppy Sneaker

All four colors of these sneakers are insanely cute, but the white option is seriously the perfect white sneaker that goes with absolutely anything all year around.

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Converse

Chuck Taylor All Star High Top Platform Sneaker

The canvas version of these have been my go-to shoes all summer long. When I saw that they come in leather too, I 1) audibly gasped and 2) immediately added them to my wishlist.

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Marc Fisher LTD

Gadri Pointed Toe Bootie

This pointed-toe, Western-style pair of booties from Marc Fisher has become iconic for a good reason. They’re chic, go with everything, and make you look instantly put together.

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Franco Sarto

Waxton Chelsea Boot

Miranda Priestly, who? These square-toed booties are so chic that everyone will want to know where you got them.

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Franco Sarto

Stevie Bootie

If you haven’t added a pair of mid-calf boots to your closet yet, now’s your chance. They’re back with a vengeance this year, and we predict that this trend will stick around for a while.

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Dirty Laundry

Groovy Platform Boot

The ‘70s are back, and these retro-style booties are a great way to bring the groovy style into your wardrobe in a subtle way.

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Marc Fisher LTD

Padmia Chelsea Boot

These boots will become your #1 go-to through fall and winter. All three colors are super cute, and these are easy to slip on with any outfit.

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Caslon

Miller Water Resistant Chelsea Boot

These boots were top sellers all through last fall and winter, and at under $60, you’ll definitely want to grab a pair now.

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Steve Madden

Hayle Platform Chelsea Boot

This pair is the upgraded version of an insanely popular pair of boots from last year—so if you get yourself a pair now, you know you’ll be ahead of the game.

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Blondo

Drew Waterproof Bootie

Our team loves Blondo boots—especially the suede option that is also waterproof. For under $100 and with this super cute zipper detail, this pair is a must-have.

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Steve Madden

Finn Chain Pointed Toe Mule

These are a perfect addition to your wardrobe if you’re heading back to the office soon. They come in six colors that are all adorable, plus the oversized chain detail is very on-trend this year.

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Treasure & Bond

Nova Mule

You’ll be living in these mules this fall—they’re not only cute and comfortable, they’re also very affordable at under $40.

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Sarto by Franco Sarto

Sandra Mule

This unique take on a classic mule is the perfect way to spice up your footwear collection. Plus, we seriously want one of each color and pattern.

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Marc Fisher LTD

Saraly Faux Fur Lined Mule

If you love the idea of fur-lined mules to keep your feet warm this winter but don’t want to splurge on a higher-end brand, these are a great option for you.

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Vince Camuto

Loralee Mule

Woven sandals have been absolutely everywhere this summer, so these mules are a great way to bring that trend into the fall.

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Michael Michael Kors

Petra Block Heel Sandal

These block heels are the answer to the question we’ve all been wondering: If plain suede ankle-strap heels are out, what’s in?

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Chinese Laundry

Lana Slide Sandal

These comfy heeled sandals will have you looking cute for the rest of summer, and the leather material means you can also make them work into early fall.

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Aerosoles

Lima Slide Sandal

Hello to these shoes and these shoes only! They’re so fun and the absolute perfect summer-to-fall transition shoe.

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Zac Zac Posen

Yanni Sandal

If you have any weddings to attend during the rest of the year, these heels are a fun and trendy addition to any dress.

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Vince Camuto

Candialia Sandal

Everyone needs a classy pair of heels that can go with anything, and this woven pair definitely fits the bill.

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UGG

Genuine Shearling Slipper

Our editors wait all year long to snag Ugg slippers at a lower price during this sale. Although other brands are cute, nothing comes close to the sheer comfort of a classic Ugg slipper.

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UGG

Cozette Genuine Shearling Slipper

These are the classic Ugg slipper’s Gen-Z little sister. If you have a trendy gal to buy a gift for or just want to branch out yourself, these are a great option.

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Nordstrom

Snuggle Plush Faux Fur Slipper

You’ll find yourself slipping on these classic crossband faux-fur slippers all the time. Plus, they come in five colors, all of which are super cute.

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Fashion Through the Decades: How 1940s Fashion Inspires My Style

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Drawn to 1940s style, I can’t help but agree with the motto: Vintage style, but not vintage values.

Due to World War II, designers were forced to stop making new styles from 1939 to 1945. This created a strikingly different fashion aesthetic from the beginning of the decade to the end. The government set limits on how much material a woman could purchase. Thus, women needed to get creative with their wardrobe selections.

Hence, the 1940s was known for its seemingly classic style, simple designs and clean lines. Trends could be thrown out the window in favor of versatile pieces that could be worn from season to season. Perhaps this is where the idea for the capsule wardrobe originated.

The 1940s was known for its seemingly classic style, simple designs and clean lines.

Many of us, whether we realize it or not, have been influenced by 1940s fashion. It can definitely be regarded as the start of our modern-day interest in stylish minimalism. Pieces that once gained popularity in the mid-20th century currently sit in our closets, no time travel required.

Here are some of my favorite style inspiration ideas from the 1940s:

Hair Scarfs

Seen perhaps most recognizably on Rosie the Riveter, hair scarfs were a practical way for a woman of the 1940s to keep her hair out of the way during WWII. Women of the time rolled up their sleeves and went to work outside the home for the first time. They took on essential roles in factories left behind by men who had to enlist in the military.

Patterned scarfs are a go-to accessory in my own wardrobe. I first picked up a few while thrift shopping for a feminine, yet vintage flair item. An easy, go-to scarf style can be as simple as a top-knot with a scarf wrapped around the head. It’s a perfect hack for when I run out of dry shampoo.

Pencil Skirts

In the 1940s, designers raised hemlines for the sake of fabric shortages. Also, pencil skirts that were trimmed close to the body came into fashion. Women’s fashion maintained a feminine shape, while still allowing for pieces that were practical enough for everyday wear.

Women’s fashion maintained a feminine shape, while still allowing for pieces that were practical enough for everyday wear.

In 2021, we don’t wear pencil skirts on a daily basis. However, they are still the perfect piece for a professional look with a blouse tucked in to further show off one’s shape for a “femme-fatale” look.

The Classic Dress

Perfect for the summer months, a common look that women in the 1940s wore was the iconic, yet simple, floral dress. During a period when clothes were transitioning to more practical designs, women still wanted to get dolled-up on occasion, especially toward the end of the decade as feminine styles reigned supreme once again.

An easy find today, a light and airy classic knee-length dress is still a staple in my wardrobe. A faultless and versatile fashion staple to throw on, one can dress the look up for a glamorous night out on the town or down for a casual day out at the park.

A simple dress with a good structure is the first article of clothing that drew me to 1940s fashion. It inspired me to become more in tune with my femininity and strength like the women in that time did so eloquently.

What fashion trends do you appreciate from the 1940s? What time period influences your style the most?

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The Best Plus-Size Matching Sets on the Internet RN

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Sometimes advice comes in unexpected forms, and one of my favorite pieces of it came from the 2011 version of Footloose (yes, really). Ariel, played by Julianne Hough, is getting ready for a dance, and her mom tells her that “simple elegance is something to strive for.” It’s always stuck with me and is something I try to incorporate into my outfits constantly. I’ve figured out a few go-to outfit formulas that I feel fit the bill, and as of late, that almost always includes a matching set.

But as we’ve discussed time and time again, finding incredible plus-size pieces isn’t always easy, so when we do, we love to shout it from the rooftops. Matching sets come in countless different cuts and fits—long pants and a tank top, shorts and a long sleeve, you name it—which means there’s something out there for absolutely everyone.

Another plus of a good matching set? They’re almost always uber-comfortable (we’re talking pajama-level cozy), which makes us gravitate toward them even more. Looking good doesn’t need to equate to spending a ton of time putting together an outfit, and mastering effortless style is easy with the help of an arsenal of a few good matching sets. Ready for your new summer uniform? These are the best plus-size matching sets for any and every occasion:

 

For your day (or night) out

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Madewell

Kayla Top

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Madewell

Kayla Skirt

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Abercrombie

Tie Strap Top

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Abercrombie

Smocked Mini Skirt

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ASOS

Color Block Shirt

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ASOS

Color Block Shorts

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ASOS

Satin Crop Top

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ASOS

Satin Skirt

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ASOS

Maxi Beach Set

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ASOS

Ribbed Polo Set

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For lounging

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ASOS

’70s Track Top

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ASOS

’70s Track Shorts

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SKIMS

Cotton Rib Bodysuit

8 colors available
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SKIMS

Cotton Rib Boxer

8 colors available
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ASOS

Ribbed Sweatshirt

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ASOS

Ribbed Joggers

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ASOS

Knit Set

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For your workout

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Girlfriend Collective

Long-Line Sports Bra

10+ colors available
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Girlfriend Collective

High-Rise Bike Short

7 colors available
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Athleta

Long-Line Sports Bra

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Athleta

7/8 Capri

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Old Navy

Long-Line Sports Bra

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Old Navy

High-Waisted Leggings

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ATHLETA

V-Cut Sports Bra

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ATHLETA

7/8 Leggings

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6 Ways to Style Your Gorgeous Velvet Sofa

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As someone who just moved from a tiny studio apartment to a somewhat spacious two-bedroom, let me vent for a sec: Finding the right couch is hard. It has to be comfortable but chic and stand out enough to update your style while still being timeless enough to adapt to your changing taste throughout the years. Committing to a couch is arguably more stressful than committing to a relationship.

Whether you’re in need of a new couch or just looking for a statement piece to take up space, I have the perfect solution for you: a velvet sofa. Bold yet classic, comfortable but chic, it’s the investment piece you didn’t know you needed. It immediately makes any space more luxe, but at the same time, it’s still welcoming. Call us bias, but the gorgeous pieces from The Everygirl’s collab with Interior Define come in a variety of shades in luxe velvet fabrics, ranging from gorgeous jewel tones to chic neutrals. Trust me, you won’t miss your boring old sectional. Just to prove that velvet works in any season or style, we put together a style guide on how to style your velvet couch in six totally different ways. Whether your style is more classic or trendy, there’s a velvet couch setup for you. 

 

Minimal farmhouse





couch / ottoman / lamp / rug / faux eucalyptus / wall art / wood tray

If Nancy Meyers had a velvet sofa on set, this is how it would be styled. If you’re a sucker for timeless style, muted colors, and lots of texture, you’re going to love plush velvet mixed with woodsy accents and a jute rug to make it feel more grounded. Joanna Gaines would be proud! 

 

 

Eclectic 





couch / pouf / throw pillows / mirror / gold vase / fiddle leaf tree

For the style star who isn’t afraid to stand out and gravitates toward accents with personality, try the classic couch in a bold color like blush mixed with fun prints, bohemian poufs, and eye-catching pieces. 

 

 

Mid-Century Modern





couch / coffee table / accent chair / snake plant / wall prints

We love mid-century modern because the cool design and clean lines means pieces that look more expensive than they are. Velvet pairs perfectly with the chic style, thanks to dark colors, sleek lines, and the perfect addition of faux leather and wood. 

 

 

Grandmillenial





couch / throw pillows / end tables / dried bouquet / vase / lamp / wall prints

That’s right: your grandmother’s sitting room is officially cool, thanks to the grandmillenial style sweeping Instagram. Think: pleated textures, muted florals, and vintage pastels. It’s like you entered a very on-trend time machine. 

 

 

Relaxed Modern





couch / print / baskets / candle / stool / plant / rug

If your vibe is more California-cool, velvet textures will warm up natural accents and simplistic pieces. Let a black and white print and tropical plant stand out next to a few simple and stylish pieces. It’s like the interior design version of “I woke up like this” makeup–intentionally effortless and oh-so-cool. 

 

 

Parisian





couch  / rug / wall print / faux peonies / mirror / bust / storage basket / side table

When you can’t go to Paris, you bring Paris to your living room. Velvet is arguably the most elegant couch fabric, and it goes perfectly with extravagant gold mirrors, pretty peonies, and French girl-approved accents like rattan or busts. C’est si bon!

 

 

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How To Navigate Seasons of Change

A mound of sand in the desert

I think my aversion to change began when I was 17 years old. Before that age, I had everything under control or at least I felt like I did. I had a carefully thought-out roadmap for my life. If I just followed it and executed it, then I would arrive at my destination as planned—such understandably naïve thinking for a small town girl with big dreams. 

I remember sitting in my antique bedroom whose walls knew every daydream and nightmare the summer before college held. As sounds from the “Number One Station for Hip Hop and R&B” played in the background, my mind over-thought my plan for the next four years, only to be interrupted by the unmistakable rasp of Lyfe Jennings’s voice on the radio.

“There’s only two things in life that are constant. That’s change and change.”

I immediately turned off the radio. 

The song itself, titled “Never Never Land,” is actually about a man who finally embraces a mature love, but whatever. I didn’t care. That line triggered me, for whatever reason, and I’d heard enough. Perhaps, this natural reaction foreshadowed what was to come for me: a decade (and then some) worth of running from seasons of change. 

Before my mom died, I saw change as a series of manageable events that didn’t necessarily have to change the life trajectory of my life. I could control the effects and consequences of change. It was a selfish lens to view life through, but it worked at the time.   

At 18, my mom’s death introduced me to my first real season of change. I couldn’t control this—not the pain, not the way I experienced grief, nor the time it would take me to accept the reality that I would never see her or hear her voice again.

I couldn’t control this—not the pain, not the way I experienced grief, nor the time it would take me to accept the reality…

No matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t control this. So, I ran. I pretended she was on an island with no access to mobile devices. When I felt called to rise to a challenge that I thought I wasn’t ready for, I ran in the opposite direction. When my mental health began to decline, I ran to the arms of the wrong people and to spaces that didn’t serve me. 

Eventually, my legs began to give. I had to ask myself, what good did running actually do? It offered a false sense of control, prolonged the inevitable pain that comes with healing and created unhealthy coping mechanisms. Running was fear disguised as control. At 29, faced with a new season of change characterized by loss and new beginnings, I decided to try something new. 

What good did running actually do? Running was fear disguised as control.

I paused. I felt. I listened. I moved with the current of change instead of fighting against it. I released control and opened myself to the effects of growth, pain and the joy of embracing change. At this very moment, I sit in a new bedroom, whose walls know my new nightmares and evolved daydreams, staring 30 right in her eyes and daring her to ask me that question. The one that I’ve avoided answering for all of my 20s. 

How do you navigate seasons of change? 

Now, I know that I don’t. But I’m human. So, I’ll say that I try my hardest not to navigate change. 

By definition, to navigate means “to operate or control the course of.” As hard as you may try—and believe me, I’ve tried—you cannot control seasons of change nor the residual effects. Not even the most carefully thought-out plan can equip you for where a season of change takes you mentally, physically and emotionally. 

You cannot control seasons of change nor the residual effects.

There is no right or wrong way to move through seasons of change. No one has the blueprint. We’re all figuring it out as we go, and what works for me may or may not work for you. However, trust yourself and the timing of your life. Let that be your guide. 

How have you learned to navigate seasons of change? How has running from change impacted you in the past?

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The Best Cold-Weather Pieces at the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale

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For those of us who look forward to the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale every year (raises both hands), we know that it puts us in an interesting situation: It happens during the heart of summer but allows us to stock up on pieces that are released for fall. The result? Wishing we could speed up time and get to fall so we can wear all of the incredible new pieces we scored at incredible discounts.

In my humble opinion, the absolute best items to add to your cart at the Nordstrom Sale are cold-weather essentials—coats, boots, jackets, the whole shebang. Cold-weather pieces tend to be a lot more expensive than items for other seasons, so being able to get them at a discounted price means we’re strategizing our entire fall and winter wardrobes in the middle of July—and can you blame us?

We’re not saying that you should want to fast-forward time and skip straight ahead to the cool, dreamy days of fall. All we’re saying is that if these pieces make you want to, don’t blame us. These are the absolute best cold-weather items you can pick up at the 2021 Nordstrom Sale (and you can bet they’re already in our carts).

 

In this article

1
Coats & Jackets

2
Sweaters

3
Boots

 

Coats & Jackets

Bernardo

Peaked Lapel Coat, $149

originally $265
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Bernardo

Belted Wrap Coat, $149

originally $265
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Bernardo

Belted Wrap Coat, $149

originally $265
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Halogen

Double Face Wool Coat, $129

originally $199
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CLUB MONACO

Maite Trench Coat, $194

originally $329

A classic trench is a staple in anyone’s wardrobe, and this cult-favorite option is rarely discounted. You’ll never regret having this in your closet.

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Ralph Lauren

Snap Front Quilted Jacket, $99

originally $170

For the in-between weather where it’s chilly but not quite chilly enough for your parka, this chic, quilted coat is your answer. It’s timeless but will give your look a little something extra with its chic gold hardware.

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RALPH LAUREN

Wool Blend Jacket, $249

originally $380
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Ralph Lauren

Diamond Quilted Jacket, $119

originally $200
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BLANKNYC

Faux Shearling Jacket, $64

originally $98
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Thread & Supply

Dolman Quilted Jacket, $35

originally $55
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ALLSAINTS

Leather Biker Jacket, $325

originally $489

I picked this up at a Nordstrom Sale a couple of years ago, and it is without a doubt one of my top five favorite items in my entire closet. It is the absolute perfect leather jacket, and I get asked about it almost every time I wear it. If you choose one investment piece in the sale, I couldn’t recommend this more.

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BLANKNYC

Suedo Moto Jacket, $99

originally $188
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BLANKNYC

Plus-Size Moto Jacket, $99

originally $188
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BLANKNYC

Faux Leather Moto Jacket, $54

originally $98
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Thread & Supply

Shirt Jacket, $31

originally $49
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The North Face

Water Repellent Down Parka, $224

originally $300

The perfect winter coat for any cold climate, this editor favorite has passed the test of Chicago winters (which is saying a lot). If you’re looking for a new parka to invest in, this is one that will take you through winter after winter.

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SAM EDELMAN

Belted Wool Coat, $149

originally $320
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Bernie

Faux Fur Coat, $119

originally $215
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Sweaters

Treasure & Bond

Button Front Cardigan, $49

originally $79
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VINCE

Wool Longline Cardigan, $324

originally $545
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Nordstrom

Cashmere Sweater, $69

originally $119

Cashmere rarely goes on sale, so we’re adding this one to our cart while we still can (in multiple colors, if we’re being honest). This is one of the lowest prices we’ve ever seen for a classic, cashmere sweater, and we know this is a piece we’ll wear for years to come.

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Barefoot Dreams

Cozy Chic Cardigan, $79

originally $128

One of our favorite things to pick up at the Nordstrom Sale is any and everything Barefoot Dreams (they make the softest, coziest products we’ve ever experienced in our lives), and this wrap cardigan is like a hybrid between our robes and a sweater. All we can imagine is sitting on the couch on a winter day working from home snuggly in this.

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Nordstrom

Cashmere Sweater, $69

originally $119
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Madewell

Coziest Yarn Cardigan, $58

originally $98
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Halogen

Rib Cardigan, $45

originally $69
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Free People

Too Good Sweater, $49

originally $78
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Madewell

Kent Cardigan, $58

originally $98

Looking for a staple to add to your wardrobe? Look no further than this classic cardigan that you’ll reach for time and time again.

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BDG

Fisherman Half Zip, $45

originally $69
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VINCE

Chunky Wool Sweater, $269

originally $445
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Good American

Collared Sweater, $79

originally $129

Polos aren’t just for the country club anymore, and this sweater falls into the 2021 trend in a subtle way that you can wear for years to come.

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VINCE

Easy Fit Crewneck, $179

originally $295
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Free People

Princess Sweater, $69

originally $108
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Boots

3 colors available

Cedar Bootie, $89

originally $135
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4 colors available

Water Resistant Stretch Bootie, $329

originally $495
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4 colors available

Lace-Up Bootie, $149

originally $249

You’ve probably seen this cult-favorite boot all over Instagram every time the temps drop below 40—but they rarely go on sale. If you’re looking for a new winter boot that will keep you warm and looking good, this is it.

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4 colors available

Knee High Boot, $149

originally $225
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4 colors available

Stevie Bootie, $109

originally $168
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6 colors available

Welland Bootie, $99

originally $150
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4 colors available

Slouchy Boot, $89

originally $139
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2 colors available

Water Resistant Chelsea Boot, $59

originally $99

This water-resistant boot was constantly sold out last year for a reason: it falls into the chunky boot craze that’s all the rage (without being too chunky), but is practical for real life since it’s water resistant. I wore these boots almost every time I left the house last winter, and if I didn’t have them, I’d be snagging them up in an instant this year. These are going to sell out fast, so get your hands on them while you can.

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SARTO BY FRANCO SARTO

Chelsea Boot, $119

originally $190
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2 colors available

Chelsea Lug Boot, $249

originally $378
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2 colors available

Ramona Bootie, $152

originally $228
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3 colors available

Lori Bootie

originally $170
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4 colors available

Pointed Toe Bootie, $129

originally $198

With a walkable, two-inch block heel, these are the absolute perfect booties—and are an editor favorite around our office. If you’re looking for a go-to black bootie, this leather option is for you; if you want a statement bootie for the colder weather, the blue suede is calling your name.

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The Nordstrom Anniversary Sale Is On! Here Are Our Favorite Picks

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